Dear Mamas of Miscarriage,
I know I’ve written to you before, but I wanted to remind you that you’re not traveling this stormy road alone. No matter how long it has been since you lost your little one, I know that you still think of them. Sometimes you think of what they would’ve looked like, and what it would’ve been like to hold their tiny hand in yours. You may even have dreams about them and what could’ve been. You’re not alone. I promise you; I understand.
No matter how long it has been, you still remember exactly how you felt when you found out or began to go through the loss process. At times – sometimes seemingly out of nowhere – that overwhelming sorrow will hit you like a ton of bricks. You’ll want to just stop and cry for the little one you never got to hold, and it is okay to cry no matter how long it has been. You’re not alone. I promise you; I understand.
When you’ve had a miscarriage, you can feel completely alone in the world. There is a lot of stigma around talking about miscarriages, but the reality is the only way to stop the stigma is to talk about them. When we experienced our loss, I remember thinking that I would be judged for having done something wrong to cause it, made to feel ashamed for what happened, and expected to never talk about something taboo. However, I found that for myself talking about it was a coping mechanism. By talking about it, I’ve had numerous others open up to me that I didn’t realize were concealing their own stories. You’re not alone. I promise you; I understand.
For the days when the memories hit you like a ton of bricks, you can reach out to me, and I’ll listen.
XOXO,
The Great Kaysby
The Great Kaysby 