hope

A Moment for Mattman

Matthew Perry once said that people would be shocked by his death, but they wouldn’t be surprised. I suppose he said this given the way that many people react to the death of someone who was either a recovering addict or a known addict. The fact that Matthew was the former of the two was as well known as the fact that he became famous for playing Chandler Bing. While many of us loved Chandler, we related to Matthew because of his openness with his struggles battling addiction as many people have either had the same battle personally or have a family member or friend that’s fought that battle.

Since hearing about Mattman’s untimely death last night (about 25 hours ago to be precise), I’ve thought a lot about him. This was in part due to listening to Friends while cleaning today, but it was mostly because in a lot of ways, I feel like I have lost a friend myself. Though we never met in person, from things like interviews and following him on Instagram, I found myself feeling connected on a personal level (much like it is easy to feel connected to a lot of people you friend/follow on social media). From what he put out there, he was very open about his battle with addiction and how he thought he could use his personal struggles to help others during their own fights with addiction. At one point he event turned his Malibu beach house into Perry House to give men who were starting their recovery journey a safe haven. I can’t think of a lot of people – celebrity or “normal guy” – who would be willing to do such a thing. Mattman was also very open about his 2018 health scare when he was given a 2% chance of survival after his colon burst and how looking at the colostomy bag was enough to keep him going on the recovery journey. He also truly believed that there was a reason God got him through this health scare, and he felt it was his mission to give others who were fighting addiction hope. This desire to spread hope led to the writing of his book and a script about his struggles. Imagine having a desire to spread hope after so much struggle just to survive! We could all stand to be a little more like that!

Whether you’re reading this as a general fan of Matthew Perry or a fan of Friends, I hope that you will take a moment of remembrance for Mattman and remember that he was more than Chandler Bing. As someone who didn’t grow up watching Friends (I wasn’t even a teenager when it started), yet grew up watching Friends, it can be hard to not want to focus on his legacy from the show standpoint. However, I will do my best to honor the man he was and the legacy of hope that he strived to pass forward. In a recent Instagram post, he said, “Sleep well everybody, I’ve got the city tonight – Mattman.” Tonight, he’s got all of us from above. Rest easy, Mattman!

XOXO,

The Great Kaysby

Stronger Together

From a young age we are taught the importance of independence. We are taught how important it is to be self reliant and not need the help of others. In a lot of instances this is true. It’s good to be able to take care of your own hygiene needs; it’s good to be able to cook for yourself; it’s good to be able to take care of your own basic daily living needs. However, there are times in our lives when we are stronger together and having people work together accomplishes more than an individual can achieve. The Tornadoes of December 10 and 11 are a great example of people being stronger together!

December 10 started out as an ordinary day for me. I was going to work, and that night I planned to have LilKsby watch Santa come by on the fire truck that night. During my second block class, students started asking me if I thought there would be tornadoes that night. I’m not big on paying attention tothe weather – that is more of Mr Kisby’s department – so I said “oh I don’t know”. As the day went on, I realized the threat of storms was very really. When the fire department preventively cancels Santa, you know the weather is going to be bad! The threat quickly became reality as around 10:15 the first tornado warning – yes first – was issued for our area. While taking cover in our basement, I first noticed how important being stronger together in a disaster is. I can’t count how many people were posting about the warnings on social media to make sure everyone was informed. I also can’t tell you how many messages I saw asking if people were accounted for or people saying they were safe. Even once the first warning expired, people were checking in one another making sure everyone had what they needed and offering help as they could.

Two hours later, the second warning was issued. I was sure that this time we would be hit. By pure luck and helpful geography, we were spared. However many were not so lucky. It turned out that during 24 hours and 11 minutes on December 10 and 11, there were 61 tornadoes from the storm system including the Quad State Tornado and the Tornado Family that damaged much of Western Kentucky. The destruction that was seen by the late of day on December 11 was incomprehensible even with pictorial evidence. The light of day was devastating to say the least. However, the devastation once again proved that people are stronger together.

How did a tornado outbreak prove people were stronger together? Simple, people have come together by the multitude to help. Organizations have spear headed donation drives and taken semi truck loads of needed items like diapers, baby wipes, water, personal hygiene items, etc to the impacted areas. Small business owners of food trucks have driven hours to go Western Kentucky just to give free meals to those in need. I’ve heard of people donating blood; I’ve heard of people taking their excavators to help go through the rumble. I’ve seen personal vehicles lined up to take donations to drop off points. I’ve seen people open their homes to serve meals. Dollar donations have also been amazing! The support of people uniting to help is proof that even though we are taught to be independent that we are stronger together!

As time goes forward and areas begin to heal from the devastation, I hope that the importance of stronger together will remain. I hope that we will continue to be stronger together in everyday life and not just during tragedies.

XOXO,

The Great Kaysby

Feel Good Friday

What if every Friday you did one good deed for someone else? It could be buying them their favorite drink; it could be writing them a quick thank you note; it could be sending them a message saying “you’re doing a great job”. Whatever you did for someone would not have to have a financial cost, but it has the potential to have a reward greater than money: happiness. The more happiness that someone has in their life, the more happiness they can put into the lives of others. Imagine a world where people experienced more happiness! I bet it would be a more peaceful world!

Today I challenge you to do something that makes someone else feel good. You might inspire them to do something good for someone else. There’s no telling how big the ripple effect could become!

XOXO,

The Great Kaysby

A Shot of Hope

COVID-19 Vaccines - Columbia Memorial Hospital — Photo Credit: Columbia Memorial Hospital

Today, I got a “Shot of Hope”! I got my second dose of the Covid vaccine! When I got the first one in February, there was a since of relief that the light at the end of the tunnel was getting brighter. Now that I’ve had the second dose, I’m filled with hope!

I am filled with hope to hug people outside of my household soon.

I have hope that friends who haven’t seen their parents and grandparents since last March will get to see them soon.

I have hope that Mr Kisby will be able to get it soon along with all of our loved ones!

I have hope to see people in person that I haven’t felt comfortable visiting since last March.

I have hope that LilKsby will get to safely have play dates.

I have hope to be able to travel without worry so we can show LilKsby the world.

I have hope that we will start hearing more and more survival stories than stories of death or other long term impacts.

I have hope from the “Shot of Hope” that a brighter future will be here in the next few months.

Frankly, it feels AMAZING to have so much hope! For so long it seemed like there was not light at the end of the tunnel; it seemed like the pandemic was never going to come to a state of control (a true end still seems like an impossibility). There was a time when it seemed like we were never going to see people outside of our household or travel ever again. Those times were hard, so to have hope again is an extraordinary feeling!

I hope this extraordinary feeling keeps going; I hope that I can keep from getting brought down by those who don’t share my hope. Believe me, I understand that there are people who do not want to get the vaccine. I understand that there are people who have not been as cautious as me and my family have been. I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinions, whether I agree or not, in any situation. As someone who understands, all I ask is that you don’t rain on my parade of hope. For me, the vaccine gives me hope for a better tomorrow…in a couple of weeks when it’s reached the max level of effectiveness!

XOXO,

The Great Kaysby

“…it was an extraordinary gift for hope, a romantic readiness such as I have never found in any other person…” F Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

Since the beginning of self-isolation and social distancing to prevent the spread of COVID-19, I’ve been wanting to write; however, I’ve not been sure of what to write. Then, Friday it was nice out, and we went for a family walk. Before we came back in the house, I checked the rear of the house for storm damage from the previous night. That’s when I passed my flowerbed and saw the tiny bloom on my phlox. In that moment, I knew what to write about: hope.

As we are in the midst of a global pandemic, the media is full of gloom and doom. Yet if you look for it, there are signs of hope in the media. Here are some that I think need to be shared:

Two of the elderly at the nursing home in Washington where so many have died fully recovered.
Two of the people diagnosed in Kentucky have fully recovered (perhaps more by now)
People are doing the kindest things for the elderly in assisted living and nursing homes like putting up bird feeders outside their windows
People are finding alternate ways to visit while maintaining social distance
Andy Beshear is leading our state by showing how much he cares for the people
China (as of yesterday) has had no new mainland cases for 3 days
Last week, our local school district delivered 26,911 meals to school age children and elderly/at risk communities members
Government is coming together to help those facing unemployment, loss of health care, etc.
Groups of people are coming together to raise funds and deliver meals to those in need.

All of these example have helped me to have hope during this pandemic. I not only have hope for health, I also have hope that we will come out of this stronger. I have hope that we will come out of this as better people who are generally more caring. I have hope that our planet will come out in better shape because people are using less resources. I have hope that everyone else can see the silver lining in this cloud!

I’d love to know how you are seeing hope! Share in the comments!

XOXO,

The Great Kaysby

Hope

“…it was an extraordinary gift for hope, a romantic readiness such as I have never found in any other person…” F Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

As we are in the midst of a global pandemic, the media is full of gloom and doom. Yet if you look for it, there are signs of hope in the media. Here are some that I think need to be shared:

Two of the elderly at the nursing home in Washington where so many have died fully recovered.
Two of the people diagnosed in Kentucky have fully recovered (perhaps more by now)
People are doing the kindest things for the elderly in assisted living and nursing homes like putting up bird feeders outside their windows
People are finding alternate ways to visit while maintaining social distance
Andy Beshear is leading our state by showing how much he cares for the people
China (as of yesterday) has had no new mainland cases for 3 days
Last week, our local school district delivered 26,911 meals to school age children and elderly/at risk communities members
Government is coming together to help those facing unemployment, loss of health care, etc.
Groups of people are coming together to raise funds and deliver meals to those in need.

I’d love to know how you are seeing hope! Share in the comments!

XOXO,

The Great Kaysby